Radical Love in the Library: Seeing the Humanity in Everyone

 Getting to the Heart of Library Work

“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.”

— Rumi

When I think of the library, I think about how much I love being surrounded by books and people all day long. I learned about the concept of radical love a very long time ago and I have always been fascinated by the work of the poet Rumi. Radical love is at the very heart of what we library workers do, especially when we serve those the world has overlooked.

Radical love is not cutesy hearts, flowers or hugs and kisses. It’s not warm and fuzzy. It’s not passive. It’s absolutely fierce. It’s uncomfortable and pushes you out of your comfort zone more times than you will know. It requires presence, humility, and the willingness to sit beside someone dealing with internal pain. The key here is that you can't try to erase their pain, but instead, you must embrace it. 

Let's Talk More About Radical Love

Radical love is the kind of love that reaches past convenience and Rumi well-known for writing about this in his poems. Radical love is a love that sees the humanity in everyone and everything. It is not bound by titles, appearances, or how you feel. It is the kind of love that walks straight into the places others turn away from very much like the things we see on the daily at the library. poverty, addiction, grief, fear. Radical love speaks to our vulnerable neighbors, “You belong here too.”

In library work, we are invited on the daily into opportunities to practice this love.

When we speak kindly to someone who’s unhoused.
When we offer warmth to someone who’s angry.
When we are welcoming to someone who’s afraid to ask for our help.

Radical love is not about being perfect or endlessly self-sacrificing. It’s about recognizing our shared humanity and responding with empathy, not ego.

Love as a Path

Rumi’s version of love isn’t something you fall into. It is a path. A discipline. A practice. A way of returning to the heart again and again. When you think about library work, isn’t that what our calling is after all?

Library work challenges us to let go of our assumptions, check our reactions, and show up with compassion, even when we’re tired, even when we don’t get recognition, even when we ourselves are hurting.

There have been many moments in my own journey over the last twenty years in libraries when I realized:

I’m not here to fix people. I’m here to listen to them. Walk beside them. Hold space for their light, even if they can’t see it yet.

Radical love in the library is about choosing compassion, not because it’s easy, but because it’s necessary. It reminds us that our patrons are not problems to be managed, they are people to be seen.

The Poetry of Service and Connection

“Be like a tree and let the dead leaves drop."

— Rumi

There’s something sacred about serving those who are in need and there’s something poetic about connection that blooms in unexpected places. When someone walks through our doors and feels unseen, ignored, or written off by the world, we have the power to "drop our dead leaves" and help them. With one smile, with one hello, we can transform lives.

These are the moments that stay with us 🦋
The teen who finally feels safe enough to open up.
The elderly patron who finds comfort in friendly conversations.
The person experiencing homelessness who smiles when you say hello or welcome.

Radical love is poetry in motion. It is the line between silence and kindness. The rhythm of showing kindness and compassion again and again. This kind of service allows the dead leaves to drop and new foliage to bloom.

Libraries as Sacred Ground

When we root our work in radical love, the library becomes more than a resource hub, it becomes sacred ground. A place where equity lives, where hope can breathe, where transformation quietly takes root. We don't have to call it spiritual. We don't have to name it anything at all. We know it when we feel it. That still, quiet moment when someone realizes they are welcome in the library makes all the difference in the world.

Reflect With Me

Here are a few reflection questions to consider as you think about radical love in your own library work, especially if you're navigating burnout, compassion fatigue, or disconnection:

• When was the last time you offered a welcoming smile to someone who didn’t expect it and how did it make you feel?

• What barriers have you had to release in order to serve with your heart?
  
  

• Can you remember a time when someone offered you radical love in your work or life?

Final Thoughts

Radical love doesn’t ask us to fix everything. It asks us to show up. To listen and to remember that the library is more than just a building. It’s a place where everyone should be met with warmth. Where the overlooked are welcomed. Where the work of transformation is happening, but very quietly, on most days.

If you’re doing even just a little right now, you’re already walking that path, so kudos to you!

Here’s to the poetry of your service. Here’s to radical love, even when it’s hard. Here’s to seeing the humanity in every person who walks through our doors.

With fierce love,
the Compassionate Librarian

Welcome to The Consciousness Archives

 

                    The Consciousness Archives:

A cosmic exploration of spirit, storytelling, and the soul of librarianship

I am putting this new blog series out into the universe. The focus is somewhere between the nature of consciousness and the chaos of the returns desk, between ancient myths and modern burnout, between sacred scrolls and staff meetings. That's a lot of wide open space to cover and a lot of cosmic energy to summon, and yet that's exactly where this new blog series belongs. 

Let's dig deep into the depths of our library souls and focus on:

Why we do what we do
Who we are beneath the badge, the title, and the book bag

Libraries are in a state of emergency

Emotionally - Spiritually - Existentially

We are underfunded, undervalued, and overextended. Or as George Washington in Hamilton would say, "We are outgunned, outmanned, outnumbered, and outplanned."

Here's an idea: Let's weaponize our compassion. Let's set our energy together, collectively.
Think about this too. 

Why do we stay? 

We do we keep showing up?

This is why: We fan the flames of truth and information, we share the stories, and we are the protectors of the library.

My plan for this blog is big. I want it to be a space to remember what’s been lost, and to never doubt that there is still so much hope and possibility for libraries still. 

What this series is about:

• A reflective, sometimes playful, always meaningful exploration of the deeper dimensions of library work.

• A fusion of myth, metaphor, philosophy, psychology, and good library spirit.

• A personal archive of insights drawn from my experiences as a library manager, educator, mentor, and survivor of more than one epic workplace plot twist.

What It Is Not About:

It’s not about fixing the system it’s about reclaiming what's been hollowed out within it.

What You’ll Find In The Consciousness Archives:

• Musings about the shadow side of librarianship.

• Reflections on burnout, resilience, leadership, and many stories.

• Thoughtful experiments 

• Invitations to explore your own personal myth or bag o’ burdens (yes, you’re allowed to unpack it here).

• Consciousness-raising activities and journal prompts to reconnect with your inner library spirit.

This is the series I wish had existed when I was burning out in silence.
This is for the library worker crying in the breakroom.
This is for the library student unsure if they made the right choice.
This is for the library staff that want to change careers

This is for you if you're reading this. 
Because maybe, just maybe, it's not about archiving files and books right now.
Maybe it's about archiving the human experience.

Let’s get cosmic

Let’s get conscious

Let’s remember who we are

The Consciousness Archives begins now.

Stay strong,

the Compassionate Librarian

How Helping Others Can Fill Your Cup

When Helping Others is Part of Your Self-Care

For some of us, the act of helping others—whether it’s assisting a patron, checking in on a friend, or simply offering kindness to a stranger—fills our emotional well. We find strength and healing in connection, and giving our time or energy to support others makes us feel good. But how do we balance this when life gets overwhelming?

Why Helping Others Feels So Good

There’s a reason helping others is powerful. Studies show it releases endorphins, reduces stress, and increases feelings of connection. For those of us in service professions—like librarians—it can be both a calling and a coping mechanism. When we help, we feel more grounded, useful, and in tune with our community.

I’ve experienced firsthand that some of my most meaningful moments have come from lending a hand to someone in need, whether it was offering support to a patron experiencing homelessness, listening to a colleague who just needed to vent, or surprising a friend with a small act of kindness. Every time I help someone, I walk away feeling a little lighter and more connected to something bigger than myself.

Balance is Key

For many people, helping others gives you a happy boost, which also supports an overall feeling of well-being. With that in mind, it can sometimes be easy to lose sight of your own needs. If your self-care only involves giving to others, you might eventually feel drained or resentful. I’ve learned (sometimes the hard way!) that it’s okay to set boundaries and say no when you need to recharge.

Here are a few tips I’ve found to Be helpful:

1. Set boundaries: Be honest with yourself about how much you can give without depleting your own energy.
2. Find joy in small acts: Not every act of kindness needs to be big. Sometimes holding the door for someone or giving a compliment is enough.
3. Practice reciprocal care: Surround yourself with people who can also support you when you need it.
4. Check in with yourself: Ask, “Am I helping because it feels good or because I feel I have to?”

Final Thoughts

If you are like me and helping others is part of your self-care, you should embrace it! Just remember that it’s okay to prioritize your own needs, too. Self-care doesn’t mean you have to stop being compassionate; it means making sure you have the energy to keep giving in meaningful, healthy ways.

Happy Self-Care,

the Compassionate Librarian

Crafting Gratitude: Creative Ways to Say Thank You

Gratitude is a simple but powerful act that has the ability to transform our own outlook and the environment around us. Whether it’s thanking a coworker for their support, expressing appreciation to a family member, or even extending a kind word to a stranger, saying “thank you” can create a ripple effect of positivity that touches everyone involved.

In the busy, often demanding world of library work, it’s easy to get caught up in the rush of daily tasks. But taking a moment to say “thank you” to others can make all the difference. It fosters connection, builds morale, and reminds us of the value we each bring to our shared spaces.

The Impact of Gratitude

When we express gratitude, we:

• Build Stronger Relationships: A sincere “thank you” strengthens bonds and shows others that their efforts are seen and appreciated.
• Boost Morale: Gratitude creates a more positive atmosphere, making the workplace feel lighter and more supportive.
• Reduce Stress: Focusing on what we’re grateful for can shift our mindset, helping us feel more balanced and less overwhelmed.

Ideas for Small Thank-You Gestures

Incorporating gratitude into daily life doesn’t have to be elaborate or time-consuming. Here are some simple ways to spread kindness and positivity:

1. Leave a Note: A handwritten thank-you note on a coworker’s desk or a quick email of appreciation can brighten someone’s day.
2. Say It Out Loud: Take a moment to thank someone directly for their help or effort. Even a quick “Thanks for always being so helpful” can mean a lot.
3. Pay It Forward: Surprise a stranger by paying for their coffee, leaving a kind note in a library book, or donating to a cause in someone’s honor.
4. Keep a Gratitude Journal: Write down one thing you’re thankful for each day. Over time, it helps you focus on the good things, even on tough days.
5. Celebrate Small Wins: Thank your team or colleagues when a project wraps up, even for minor contributions—they all add up!

Gratitude in Action

I’ve seen firsthand how a simple gratitude can transform the library environment. One day, after a particularly hectic shift, I thanked a coworker for covering the front desk and helping out. Not only did it make them smile, but it also reminded me to make sure to notice the teamwork that makes our days run smoothly.

These small gestures, repeated over time, create a workplace culture where people feel valued and appreciated. And when people feel appreciated, they’re more motivated, kinder, and better able to weather challenges together.

Craft Ideas for Thank-You's

Here are a few fun and easy craft ideas to express your gratitude and appreciation:

1. Handmade Thank-You Cards

   • Use colorful cardstock, markers, or stamps to create personalized cards.
   • Add a meaningful note inside about why you appreciate them.
   • For an extra touch, include small details like pressed flowers or washi tape accents.

2. Gratitude Jars

   • Decorate a mason jar with ribbons, paint, or stickers.
   • Fill it with handwritten notes of appreciation or affirmations for the recipient to read when they need a boost.
   • Perfect for a coworker, mentor, or someone who has been a steady source of support.

3. DIY Bookmarks

   • Create bookmarks using sturdy paper or laminated designs.
   • Add a thoughtful message, a quote about gratitude, or even their favorite colors.
   • This is an especially great idea for fellow book lovers or patrons.

4. Mini Care Packages

   • Put together a small bundle of goodies, such as tea bags, chocolate, or a scented candle.
   • Include a note or tag that says, “Thank you for all you do.”
   • It’s an easy way to show appreciation in a tangible and thoughtful way.

5. Gratitude Wall or Bulletin Board

• Set up a gratitude space at work where everyone can pin thank-you notes to coworkers.
• Decorate it with colorful paper, inspirational quotes, or themes that reflect your library.

Crafting Gratitude Together

Gratitude crafts are a great way to practice mindfulness and creativity. Taking time to create something thoughtful allows you to slow down, focus on the positive, and enjoy the process of expressing your appreciation.

Why not challenge yourself to create one of these thank-you crafts this week? Whether it’s a handmade card, a small token, or a heartfelt note, your gesture of gratitude could make someone’s day brighter!

With care and creativity,
the Compassionate Librarian