Showing posts with label toxic. Show all posts
Showing posts with label toxic. Show all posts

Sunday, March 9, 2025

The Future of Libraries: Breaking Away From Our Restraints












Libraries are evolving faster than ever, adapting to shifting community needs, advancing technology, and an ever-expanding role as busy community hubs. While this transformation is exciting, it also places a large amount of pressure on library workers. Burnout, compassion fatigue, and unrealistic expectations often leave staff feeling overwhelmed. With all of this in mind, what libraries really need to be working toward is a future that fosters a culture of self-compassion and self-care. I believe this shift is exactly what we need to in order to rise up and thrive. I my mind I’ve been calling it a self-care revolution. I myself don’t even know how much longer I can continue to work in a library. I'm feeling so chained down and restricted lately. I’ve spent years balancing heavy workloads, constant changes, and the emotional weight of serving my community while trying not to burn out. At times, it feels like I’m on an island all alone and I’m trying to put out fires and basically just survive each day. I’m sure there are others that feel this way too, in fact I know there are. If we don’t break away from this current culture of unsupportive restriction and move toward a more encouraging and inspiring one we will continue to lose passionate and dedicated staff because of the lack of support and burnout.

Why Self-Compassion Matters in Libraries

Many library workers dedicate themselves to serving the public, often placing the needs of patrons above their own. However, chronic stress and emotional exhaustion can lead to burnout. Taking time to care for yourself is not indulgent, it is something that we all must do. This allows us to acknowledge our own struggles, set realistic boundaries, and recover from the emotional demands of our work in libraries.

A workplace that fosters self-compassion:

  • Encourages staff to take breaks without guilt.

  • Normalizes the emotional toll of public service.

  • Creates an environment where workers feel valued and supported.

Without self-compassion, library workers are at risk of emotional depletion. Prioritizing self-compassion can lead to better job satisfaction, stronger team dynamics, and a healthier work environment overall.

Advocating for Yourself in the Library Workplace

Many library workers struggle with self-advocacy, whether due to hierarchical structures, fear of being seen as a complainer or simply being too overextended to ask for help. However, advocating for yourself is key to long-term sustainability in this field.

Ways to advocate for yourself in the library workplace include:

  • Setting Boundaries – It’s okay to say no to extra tasks beyond your role or capacity. Overextending yourself can be harmful to your mental and/or physical health and it doesn’t serve you or your community if you are overloaded or overwhelmed.

  • Communicate Your Needs Clearly – If workload expectations are unrealistic, speak up. Ask for more support, ask for help adjusting responsibilities or modifying deadlines.

  • Prioritizing Rest and Recovery – Requesting time off or scheduling regular breaks isn’t a luxury—it’s a way to get more rest and better balance in our lives.

  • Seeking Professional Development – Advocate for training and resources that help you to expand your skills and grow, which will enhance your job skills for any future work.

It’s frustrating that library workers are constantly expected to do more and more without any support. We need to advocate for ourselves and prioritizes our wellbeing, we actually have to stand up for ourselves and make our own self-care a priority.

Creating a Supportive Network in the Library

Library work can sometimes feel isolating, especially when dealing with difficult patron interactions or heavy workloads. Building a strong support network helps foster resilience and emotional well-being.

  • Find Your People – Identify colleagues who share your values and commitment to mutual support. Having trusted co-workers to vent to or collaborate with can make challenges more manageable.

  • Encourage Peer Mentorship – Formal or informal mentoring relationships can help staff navigate challenges, gain perspective, and develop new coping strategies.

  • Practice Workplace Gratitude – A culture of appreciation goes a long way in making library work feel fulfilling rather than draining. Recognizing each other’s contributions can help boost morale.

  • Push for Institutional Support – Advocate for leadership to implement mental health initiatives, structured debriefing sessions after difficult incidents, and employee wellness programs.

Realistic Expectations for Self-Care in Libraries

The idea of self-care is often reduced to spa days or bubble baths, but in reality, self-care is about creating realistic and sustainable habits that fit into your daily life. Library workers need self-care strategies that are both practical and workplace-friendly.

Here are some realistic self-care practices that can be incorporated into the library setting:

  • Micro-Breaks – Even 5-minute breathers between interactions can make a difference.

  • Mindful Transitions – Before jumping from one task to the next, take a moment to reset and refocus.

  • Workspace Comfort – Adjusting your desk setup, adding a small plant, or listening to calming music (when possible) can help create a more supportive environment.

  • Knowing When to Step Away – If an interaction with a patron is escalating, knowing when to involve a supervisor or security is a form of professional self-care.

  • After-Work Decompression – Establishing an end-of-day ritual (journaling, walking, listening to music) can help transition out of “work mode” and into rest.

The Future of Libraries Needs to be a Future of Self-Care

We know that libraries are essential, but so are the people who work in them. A sustainable future for libraries requires not just innovation in services, but a commitment to staff wellbeing. By fostering self-compassion, self-advocacy, supportive networks, and realistic self-care practices, we can build resilient workplaces where library workers can thrive, not just survive.

I really love working in a library. It has the best of both worlds, books, programming, engaging with the public, and working with an awesome library crew. I think we all need to realize that the future of libraries isn’t just about what we offer patrons. It’s about taking a deep look into the care of the people who are working in the libraries.

💬 How do you practice self-compassion in your library work? I’d love to  in the comments!

All the best,

the Compassionate LIbrarian


Saturday, March 8, 2025

Toxic Leadership in Libraries: Would You Work for the Wicked Witch of the West?

Would You Work for the Wicked Witch of the West?













I have always loved The Wizard of Oz. Growing up, I watched the movie every year, and the book remains one of my all-time favorites. One of my favorite characters that fascinated me the most was the Wicked Witch of the West. In many ways I admired her because she was so determined, very powerful, and unapologetically off the hook. But as I got older and entered the professional world, I encountered a different kind of Wicked Witch which I would call the Toxic Leader. 

My first experience with a toxic leader happened many, many years ago, but I still remember the moment vividly. She snapped at me over something minor and in that moment I had to fight back the tears. I headed to the break room as quickly as I could and when I was alone I let the tears fall. She was terrifying, and the most ironic part? I was actually one of her favorites!

What Does Toxic Leadership Look Like?

Much like in the Wizard of Oz, a toxic leader creates an environment filled with fear, manipulation, and control. Here are some telltale signs:

  • Micromanagement & Power Hoarding – Just as the Wicked Witch coveted the ruby slippers, toxic leaders cling to power, unwilling to delegate or trust their staff. Every decision must go through them, no matter how small.

  • Emotional Manipulation – The Wicked Witch wanted Dorothy’s slippers and she used scare tactics and intimidation to try to get them. Toxic library leaders may use guilt, passive-aggressiveness, or even outright hostility to control their staff.

  • Favoritism & Nepotism – In the land of Oz, there was always preferential treatment going on, and in toxic workplaces it is prevalent, certain staff members receive special privileges while others are ignored or set up for failure.

  • Lack of Support & Unrealistic Expectations – Much like when the Wicked Witch sent her minions after Dorothy without a solid plan, toxic leaders demand results without offering guidance, resources, or realistic expectations.

  • Punishing Dissent & Stifling Innovation – The Wicked Witch didn’t take well to opposition, and neither do toxic leaders. Employees who challenge bad policies, offer new ideas, or advocate for improvements may find themselves sidelined or retaliated against.

Here are a few examples of how the Wicked Witch is toxic:

🔥 She rules through fear instead of respect
🔥 She micromanages (obsessing over the ruby slippers instead of leading effectively)
🔥 She uses others to do her dirty work 
🔥 She lashes out at others instead of self-reflecting
🔥 She can’t handle opposition—When anyone stands up to her she completely unravels


The Impact of Toxic Leadership

Working under toxic leadership can be emotionally and physically draining. Employees in these environments often experience:

  • Burnout and high stress levels

  • Decreased motivation and engagement

  • Fear of speaking up or advocating for change

  • High turnover rates, creating an unstable work environment


How to Survive or Escape

If you find yourself working under the library world’s version of the Wizard of Oz, here are some strategies to help you navigate the storm:

  1. Document Everything – Keep a record of incidents, unfair treatment, and unrealistic expectations. If things escalate, documentation can be crucial.

  2. Find Your Glinda (aka a Support System) – Seek out supportive colleagues, mentors, or professional networks to validate your experiences and provide guidance. 

  3. Establish Boundaries – Toxic leaders thrive on overextending employees. Learn to say no and protect your mental health.

  4. Seek Professional Development Opportunities – If advancement within your current library isn’t possible, consider gaining skills that will help you transition to a healthier work environment.

  5. Know When to Leave – Sometimes, no amount of ruby slippers will make a toxic environment better. If leadership is unwilling to change, seeking employment elsewhere may be the best option for your well-being.


Building a Better Library Culture

Not all library leaders are diabolical villains. Many are compassionate, supportive, and dedicated to fostering a positive workplace. The key to combating toxic leadership is advocating for healthy work environments, recognizing red flags early, and promoting professional development and leadership training that emphasizes emotional intelligence, collaboration, and staff well-being.

If you’ve ever worked under a toxic manager, know that you’re not alone. There’s no place like a healthy library workplace, and sometimes, the best thing you can do is follow your own yellow brick road to a better environment.

Have you experienced toxic leadership in libraries? Share your thoughts in the comments or let’s continue the conversation on how we can make libraries a healthier place for all.


Wishing you well,

the Compassionate Librarian




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