The Healing Power of Music: A Soundtrack for Self-Care

There’s something magical about music. A single song can shift your mood, ground your thoughts, or lift your spirits in just a few notes. For me, music has always been one of the simplest—and most powerful—forms of self-care. Whether I’m winding down after a long day, needing a confidence boost, or just looking for something to make me smile, I turn to my personal soundtrack.

Music as a Self-Care Tool

Did you know that listening to music can be a self-care tool? Yes! It can be an awesome self-care tool. You don’t need a fancy playlist (though curating one is part of the fun). All you need is a few songs that really speak to you.

Here are some of the ways music supports emotional and mental well-being:

Calming Songs for Stress Relief

Soft, slow melodies can help lower your heart rate and bring your nervous system back to baseline. Perfect for anxious moments or quiet time. I call this my "Breathe & Reset" playlist.

Power Ballads & Anthems for Strength
Need a pick-me-up before a big presentation or tough conversation? Cue the empowering songs. The ones that make you stand taller, sing louder, and feel unstoppable. My "You’ve Got This" soundtrack is full of them.

Feel-Good Songs for Joy
These are the songs that make you dance in the kitchen, sing in the car, or just smile out of nowhere. I keep a playlist I call "Instant Joy" for those exact moments.

Music simply meets you where you are—and that’s the essence of self-care.

Why Music Works as Self-Care

• Music reduces stress. Listening to music has been shown to decrease the stress hormone cortisol. According to an article in Harmony & Healing, a study was conducted by the British Academy of Sound that found 74% of participants reported that calming music helped them to reduce anxiety and improve their state of rest, a marker of stress resilience.

• It boosts your mood. Music activates the brain's reward center, releasing dopamine—the “feel good” chemical. This is especially true for songs that evoke strong emotional memories or have a beat we love.

• It improves focus and sleep. Certain types of music can improve concentration and even help you fall asleep faster. Research from the National Sleep Foundation found that people who listened to music before bed reported better sleep quality.

• It connects us to others. Shared playlists, concerts, or even hearing a familiar song in a public place can create a sense of community and belonging—which is a powerful form of emotional support.

• It encourages movement. Upbeat songs naturally make us want to move, which helps release endorphins and boost our energy levels—even if we’re just dancing around the kitchen.

According to an article by the American Psychological Association, music has played a large part of helping COVID patients with delirium recover. Music's power over our brains is quite phenomenal.

Your Personal Soundtrack = Your Self-Care Toolkit

One of my favorite ways to use music as self-care is to create playlists based on my needs. I went through a long period of distress after having a catastrophic surgery that left me wondering my place in the world. I don't know how I found it or maybe it found me, but the music of German DJ and record producer TheFatRat changed my life. I listened to the soundtrack for in 2021 for at least a year. It got me through my transition in life, through writing my first book, which was laborious and intense. It got me through so much and I will never forget how it makes me feel. I'll share the songs below and what they mean to me and why I love them so much. I realize that TheFatRat may not be your cup of tea, but for me it is a shining light that got me through my darkest days. 

TheFatRat with Anna Yvette & Laura Brehm - Chosen - There's just something special about this song. If you’ve ever needed a reminder that you are stronger than you think—that your voice matters and your path is yours to walk—“Chosen” is that reminder wrapped in music.

TheFatRat feat. Laura Brehm - Mayday - captures the feeling of being on the edge—calling out for help when everything feels like it’s crashing down. It’s a raw and vulnerable track, yet there’s strength woven into every note.

TheFatRat - No No No - are you trying to practice putting up boundaries in your life? This song will help you say no no no. Whether you’re saying no to overworking, toxic relationships, unrealistic expectations, or anything that drains your energy, this track gives you permission to hold your ground.

TheFatRat - Infinite Power - Need a burst of motivation to get you moving, focused, or just fired up to tackle the day? This song is pure energy in audio form.

I could keep going, but these are probably my top favorites.

Different Themes for Musical Self-Care

Breathe & Reset – My go-to for stress, anxiety, or when I just need to calm my nervous system.

You’ve Got This – Powerful songs and energizing anthems that help me show up with confidence and courage.

Instant Joy – The feel-good songs that never fail to lift my spirits and make me smile (or dance in the living room!).

What’s on Your Playlist?

Drop a comment or message me with your favorite self-care songs—and let’s co-create a playlist filled with hope, healing, and harmony, the total self-care package!

Because sometimes, the best way to care for yourself…
is to hit play. 

Wishing you joyful moments and music that moves you!

the Compassionate Librarian

The Future of Libraries: Breaking Away From Our Restraints

Libraries are evolving faster than ever, adapting to shifting community needs, advancing technology, and an ever-expanding role as busy community hubs. While this transformation is exciting, it also places a large amount of pressure on library workers. Burnout, compassion fatigue, and unrealistic expectations often leave staff feeling overwhelmed. With all of this in mind, what libraries really need to be working toward is a future that fosters a culture of self-compassion and self-care. I believe this shift is exactly what we need to in order to rise up and thrive. I my mind I’ve been calling it a self-care revolution. I myself don’t even know how much longer I can continue to work in a library. I'm feeling so chained down and restricted lately. I’ve spent years balancing heavy workloads, constant changes, and the emotional weight of serving my community while trying not to burn out. At times, it feels like I’m on an island all alone and I’m trying to put out fires and basically just survive each day. I’m sure there are others that feel this way too, in fact I know there are. If we don’t break away from this current culture of unsupportive restriction and move toward a more encouraging and inspiring one we will continue to lose passionate and dedicated staff because of the lack of support and burnout.

Why Self-Compassion Matters in Libraries

Many library workers dedicate themselves to serving the public, often placing the needs of patrons above their own. However, chronic stress and emotional exhaustion can lead to burnout. Taking time to care for yourself is not indulgent, it is something that we all must do. This allows us to acknowledge our own struggles, set realistic boundaries, and recover from the emotional demands of our work in libraries.

A workplace that fosters self-compassion:

• Encourages staff to take breaks without guilt.

• Normalizes the emotional toll of public service.

• Creates an environment where workers feel valued and supported.

Without self-compassion, library workers are at risk of emotional depletion. Prioritizing self-compassion can lead to better job satisfaction, stronger team dynamics, and a healthier work environment overall.

Advocating for Yourself in the Library Workplace

Many library workers struggle with self-advocacy, whether due to hierarchical structures, fear of being seen as a complainer or simply being too overextended to ask for help. However, advocating for yourself is key to long-term sustainability in this field.

Ways to advocate for yourself in the library workplace include:

• Setting Boundaries – It’s okay to say no to extra tasks beyond your role or capacity. Overextending yourself can be harmful to your mental and/or physical health and it doesn’t serve you or your community if you are overloaded or overwhelmed.

• Communicate Your Needs Clearly – If workload expectations are unrealistic, speak up. Ask for more support, ask for help adjusting responsibilities or modifying deadlines.

• Prioritizing Rest and Recovery – Requesting time off or scheduling regular breaks isn’t a luxury—it’s a way to get more rest and better balance in our lives.

• Seeking Professional Development – Advocate for training and resources that help you to expand your skills and grow, which will enhance your job skills for any future work.

It’s frustrating that library workers are constantly expected to do more and more without any support. We need to advocate for ourselves and prioritizes our wellbeing, we actually have to stand up for ourselves and make our own self-care a priority.

Creating a Supportive Network in the Library

Library work can sometimes feel isolating, especially when dealing with difficult patron interactions or heavy workloads. Building a strong support network helps foster resilience and emotional well-being.

• Find Your People – Identify colleagues who share your values and commitment to mutual support. Having trusted co-workers to vent to or collaborate with can make challenges more manageable.

• Encourage Peer Mentorship – Formal or informal mentoring relationships can help staff navigate challenges, gain perspective, and develop new coping strategies.

• Practice Workplace Gratitude – A culture of appreciation goes a long way in making library work feel fulfilling rather than draining. Recognizing each other’s contributions can help boost morale.

• Push for Institutional Support – Advocate for leadership to implement mental health initiatives, structured debriefing sessions after difficult incidents, and employee wellness programs.

Realistic Expectations for Self-Care in Libraries

The idea of self-care is often reduced to spa days or bubble baths, but in reality, self-care is about creating realistic and sustainable habits that fit into your daily life. Library workers need self-care strategies that are both practical and workplace-friendly.

Here are some realistic self-care practices that can be incorporated into the library setting:

• Micro-Breaks – Even 5-minute breathers between interactions can make a difference.

• Mindful Transitions – Before jumping from one task to the next, take a moment to reset and refocus.

• Workspace Comfort – Adjusting your desk setup, adding a small plant, or listening to calming music (when possible) can help create a more supportive environment.

• Knowing When to Step Away – If an interaction with a patron is escalating, knowing when to involve a supervisor or security is a form of professional self-care.

• After-Work Decompression – Establishing an end-of-day ritual (journaling, walking, listening to music) can help transition out of “work mode” and into rest.

The Future of Libraries Needs to be a Future of Self-Care

We know that libraries are essential, but so are the people who work in them. A sustainable future for libraries requires not just innovation in services, but a commitment to staff wellbeing. By fostering self-compassion, self-advocacy, supportive networks, and realistic self-care practices, we can build resilient workplaces where library workers can thrive, not just survive.

I really love working in a library. It has the best of both worlds, books, programming, engaging with the public, and working with an awesome library crew. I think we all need to realize that the future of libraries isn’t just about what we offer patrons. It’s about taking a deep look into the care of the people who are working in the libraries.

💬 How do you practice self-compassion in your library work? I’d love to  in the comments!

All the best,

the Compassionate LIbrarian

Toxic Leadership in Libraries: Would You Work for the Wicked Witch of the West?

Would You Work for the Wicked Witch of the West?

I have always loved The Wizard of Oz. Growing up, I watched the movie every year, and the book remains one of my all-time favorites. One of my favorite characters that fascinated me the most was the Wicked Witch of the West. In many ways I admired her because she was so determined, very powerful, and unapologetically off the hook. But as I got older and entered the professional world, I encountered a different kind of Wicked Witch which I would call the Toxic Leader. 

My first experience with a toxic leader happened many, many years ago, but I still remember the moment vividly. She snapped at me over something minor and in that moment I had to fight back the tears. I headed to the break room as quickly as I could and when I was alone I let the tears fall. She was terrifying, and the most ironic part? I was actually one of her favorites!

What Does Toxic Leadership Look Like?

Much like in the Wizard of Oz, a toxic leader creates an environment filled with fear, manipulation, and control. Here are some telltale signs:

• Micromanagement & Power Hoarding – Just as the Wicked Witch coveted the ruby slippers, toxic leaders cling to power, unwilling to delegate or trust their staff. Every decision must go through them, no matter how small.

• Emotional Manipulation – The Wicked Witch wanted Dorothy’s slippers and she used scare tactics and intimidation to try to get them. Toxic library leaders may use guilt, passive-aggressiveness, or even outright hostility to control their staff.

• Favoritism & Nepotism – In the land of Oz, there was always preferential treatment going on, and in toxic workplaces it is prevalent, certain staff members receive special privileges while others are ignored or set up for failure.

• Lack of Support & Unrealistic Expectations – Much like when the Wicked Witch sent her minions after Dorothy without a solid plan, toxic leaders demand results without offering guidance, resources, or realistic expectations.

• Punishing Dissent & Stifling Innovation – The Wicked Witch didn’t take well to opposition, and neither do toxic leaders. Employees who challenge bad policies, offer new ideas, or advocate for improvements may find themselves sidelined or retaliated against.

Here are a few examples of how the Wicked Witch is toxic:

🔥 She rules through fear instead of respect
🔥 She micromanages (obsessing over the ruby slippers instead of leading effectively)
🔥 She uses others to do her dirty work 
🔥 She lashes out at others instead of self-reflecting
🔥 She can’t handle opposition—When anyone stands up to her she completely unravels

The Impact of Toxic Leadership

Working under toxic leadership can be emotionally and physically draining. Employees in these environments often experience:

• Burnout and high stress levels

• Decreased motivation and engagement

• Fear of speaking up or advocating for change

• High turnover rates, creating an unstable work environment

How to Survive or Escape

If you find yourself working under the library world’s version of the Wizard of Oz, here are some strategies to help you navigate the storm:

1. Document Everything – Keep a record of incidents, unfair treatment, and unrealistic expectations. If things escalate, documentation can be crucial.

2. Find Your Glinda (aka a Support System) – Seek out supportive colleagues, mentors, or professional networks to validate your experiences and provide guidance. 

3. Establish Boundaries – Toxic leaders thrive on overextending employees. Learn to say no and protect your mental health.

4. Seek Professional Development Opportunities – If advancement within your current library isn’t possible, consider gaining skills that will help you transition to a healthier work environment.

5. Know When to Leave – Sometimes, no amount of ruby slippers will make a toxic environment better. If leadership is unwilling to change, seeking employment elsewhere may be the best option for your well-being.

Building a Better Library Culture

Not all library leaders are diabolical villains. Many are compassionate, supportive, and dedicated to fostering a positive workplace. The key to combating toxic leadership is advocating for healthy work environments, recognizing red flags early, and promoting professional development and leadership training that emphasizes emotional intelligence, collaboration, and staff well-being.

If you’ve ever worked under a toxic manager, know that you’re not alone. There’s no place like a healthy library workplace, and sometimes, the best thing you can do is follow your own yellow brick road to a better environment.

Have you experienced toxic leadership in libraries? Share your thoughts in the comments or let’s continue the conversation on how we can make libraries a healthier place for all.

Wishing you well,

the Compassionate Librarian

The Reality of Library Work: Beyond the Myths

The Reality of Library Work 

by Kimberli Buckley 

March 2, 2025

Beyond the Myths 

Libraries are often seen y the public as quiet, stress-free environments where library staff spend their days reading books and enjoying the silence. While that’s a comforting image, the reality of library work is far more complex. I’d love to explore the common misconceptions we hear everyday, the reality of the emotional toll of public service work, and the deeper truths behind library work. 

Common Misconceptions About Library Work 

Many people assume that working in a library is easy and low-pressure, but those within the field know better. Here are some of the most common misconceptions, along with real-life examples: 

1. Libraries Are Always Quiet – While some libraries do have quiet spaces, many are now bustling community hubs. In an urban public library, staff often manage noise levels from group study sessions, children’s programs, and community events while still providing a welcoming space for all. 

2. You Get to Read Books All Day – Far from it! Library workers juggle tasks such as managing digital collections, assisting patrons with job applications, and teaching computer literacy. For example, in a library, library staff may spend the morning troubleshooting technology issues for seniors and the afternoon coordinate a literacy program for youth. 

3. Libraries Are No Longer Needed  – Really? Despite the rise of digital resources, libraries remain essential. They provide free internet access, free access to books and materials, literacy programs, research assistance, and a safe space for vulnerable community members. For example, many libraries act as a lifeline for residents who lack Internet access at home, have no printers or scanners, and can also give assistance navigating the web, which can help with job searching. Some libraries offer digital eBook collections, where items can be checked out and read on their tablets or phones. Library catalogs are mostly all online now, gone are the old card catalogs. With that in mind, libraries just seem to continue to keep up in this ever-changing  digital world! 

4. Library Work Is Low-Stress – Not so much. Dealing with the public, managing budgets, adapting to changing technology, and addressing social issues like homelessness and mental health crises all contribute to significant workplace stress. A library worker in a busy city branch might find themselves de-escalating a conflict between two patrons while simultaneously troubleshooting a system outage. Many libraries now have to have security on staff to manage the difficult or more challenging patrons.  

The Emotional and Psychological Toll of Working with the Public 

Library workers serve diverse communities, which can be rewarding but also emotionally challenging. Public service roles often involve: 

● Compassion Fatigue – Constantly helping patrons in need, particularly those facing homelessness, addiction, or other crises, can take an emotional toll. Library staff might begin to feel drained after spending each day helping unhoused patrons with their needs, such as finding housing, staying out of the harsh outdoor elements, food, clothing, medical attention, and much more. Unfortunately, the compassion that we feel for our unhoused patrons can take a toll on us and drain our internal batteries down. That’s why taking time to provide self-care for yourself is a must for library workers that frequently work with vulnerable populations.  

● Burnout – Balancing administrative tasks, programming, and frontline service while maintaining emotional energy can lead to exhaustion. Many library workers, for example, may find themselves overwhelmed by increasing demands of tasks to do with low staffing or hiring freezes and with that also comes very limited funding and resources. 

● Conflict Resolution – Library workers often de-escalate conflicts, handle difficult patrons, and navigate emotionally charged situations, adding to workplace stress. An academic librarian might frequently mediate between students and faculty over resource disputes. 

● Mental Capacity – The pressure of meeting community needs with often-limited resources creates an ongoing mental burden. Working solo  in a smaller library, you may need to act as a one-person band, handling the programming, reference, computer help, and clerical work all at one time. 

Discussion of the Common Myths of Library Work 

Beyond individual misconceptions, there are broader myths about the profession that shape public perception: 

● Libraries Are Only About Books – In reality, libraries are community centers offering job assistance, digital literacy training, and mental health resources. Some library staff may spend more time programming and doing outreach. It’s not all about books as some may think. 

● Library Jobs Are Easy To Get – Professional library work sometimes requires specialized degrees such as a Master’s in Library Science, or Library Tech Certificate. Sometime they require experience in skills  from research expertise to program development to crisis intervention.  

● Library Workers Don’t Face Workplace Challenges – This is entirely untrue. Sometimes, the job comes with security concerns, staff shortages, patron complaints, book challenges, and evolving public service demands that require adaptability and resilience. Libraries in more socioeconomically disadvantaged communities struggle with funding, while other libraries in different states might have to navigate political challenges. 

Tips for Handling Overbearing Misconceptions 

For library workers, addressing misconceptions from the public is an ongoing challenge. Here are some ways to handle it effectively: 

1. Educate with Patience – Instead of becoming frustrated, use misconceptions as teachable moments. If someone insists that libraries are no longer relevant, share examples of how they provide essential digital literacy and career development services. 

2. Set Boundaries – Some patrons may expect librarians to be personal tech support, therapists, or social workers. Gently redirect them to appropriate resources while reinforcing the library’s role. 

3. Share Your Personal Experiences – Sometimes, sharing a brief story about a challenging day at the library can help others understand the complexity of the work. 

4. Advocate for the Profession – Public perception shifts when library workers confidently share their expertise and value. Engaging in advocacy efforts through social media or professional organizations can help shift the narrative. 

Final Thoughts 

For many, library work is deeply meaningful and we know from hearing about or experiencing this ourselves. However, there are situations that arise that can be emotionally and mentally demanding. One of the most important things to do is to acknowledge that we are going to hear these myths and misconceptions, but we really need to not take it to heart. Acknowledging these challenges doesn’t diminish our passion that we bring to this field, it actually strengthens our ability to advocate for our own well-being. Someone mentioned to me recently, why aren’t there more television shows or movies about what it’s like to work in a library? It is true, we don’t see that very often. It could possibly be due to all of these myths that people still think we are just sitting around reading books all day at the library and that wouldn't make for a very good show. In contrast to this idea, the movie The Public by Emilio Esteves showcases a lot of what it's like to work at a library. There are a lot of Hollywood stars and some over the top situations, but many of these have occurred at libraries and will continue to happen. 

By debunking the myths or misconceptions, we can foster a greater understanding of the realities of library work while highlighting the incredible impact libraries have on their communities. When we stand up and speak out about the value of libraries, we can ensure that library workers are recognized for their essential contributions and help create a future where we can thrive.

Pause, Breathe, & Take Time For Yourself

If You’re Reading This, You Might Just Be in Need of Some Self-Care

If you find yourself here at the Compassionate Librarian blog you might be in need of some self-care. The first thing you can do is pause for a moment and take a deep breath. Maybe you’ve been running on empty, giving your all at work, or just feeling stretched too thin. It happens to the best of us. The good news is you can take some time for yourself to practice self-care.

Some days, it’s easy to juggle everything with a smile. But other days? Not so much. Today, for example, I’m not feeling well, and managing my own energy is hard enough—let alone handling complaints, endless questions, and unexpected issues at the library. On days like this, it’s easy to put yourself last because everything feels urgent. But that’s exactly when self-care becomes most important.

What does self-care look like on tough days?
It doesn’t have to be big or elaborate. Sometimes it’s about doing what you can—even if it’s small:

• Take a break. Step away for five minutes, even if it’s just to breathe or drink water.
• Lower the bar. Give yourself permission to do the essentials and let go of perfection.
• Create a small comfort ritual. Have a cup of tea, put on music that calms you, or take a short walk around the building.
• Ask for help. Lean on your team when you need it. We’re better when we support each other.
• Remind yourself: This moment will pass. Hard days come and go. Be kind to yourself in the middle of it all.

The reality is, working with the public service can be really demanding. We show up for others, often when we’re not at our best. But self-care is what makes it sustainable. It’s not selfish—it’s survival.

So, if you’re reading this, take a moment for yourself today if you can, if not please try for tomorrow. You’ve earned it. And if all you do is breathe deeply and remind yourself you’re doing your best, that’s enough.

Sending super big hugs!

the Compassionate Librarian

Mental Health Resources for Self-Care

Libraries are wonderful and you're surrounded by books, which is amazing, but if you are library staff or volunteer at a library you may find it can sometimes be emotionally and/or mentally draining. Library staff juggle a variety of roles. We help patrons in need, manage community challenges, and balance the growing demands of our tasks. With such a wide range of responsibilities, it’s easy to feel stretched thin. That’s why taking care of your mental health is so important.

Today, I want to share a variety of tips and resources that can help. Whether you’re dealing with compassion fatigue, workplace stress, overwhelmed with school assignments, or just need a moment to breathe, there’s something here to help with your well-being.

Tips for Protecting Your Mental Health

1. Set Boundaries

   • Know your limits when working with challenging patrons or overwhelming workloads. It’s okay to say no or ask for help when you need it.
   • Establish clear times for breaks, even if it’s just stepping away for five minutes.

2. Practice Mindfulness

   • Take a few moments during your day to pause and breathe. Apps like Calm or Insight Timer offer guided meditations perfect for quick mental resets.
   • Practice grounding techniques, like focusing on five things you can see, four you can touch, three you can hear, two you can smell, and one you can taste.

3. Lean on Peer Support

   • Connect with coworkers to share experiences, frustrations, and strategies. Peer support groups can make a big difference in feeling less isolated.
   • Celebrate small wins together, like successfully managing a difficult situation or hosting a successful program.

4. Find a Hobby or Start a Creative Project

   • Engaging in a hobby or creative activity can work wonders for your mental health. Whether it’s painting, gardening, writing, or learning a new skill, doing something you enjoy can help you unwind and bring joy to your day.
   • If you’re not sure where to start, think about something you’ve always wanted to try. A new creative project might be just what you need to recharge.

5. Spend Time with Friends or Loved Ones

   • Social connection is a powerful way to relieve stress and improve mental health. Plan an outing with friends or family—a hike in nature, lunch at a favorite spot, or a visit to a tea café for a cozy teatime treat.
   • Remember the phrase “Treat Yo’ Self.” Whether it’s splurging on a fancy dessert or booking that much-needed massage, doing something fun with loved ones can lift your spirits and help you feel supported.

6. Stay Active

   • Movement can do wonders for your mental health. Take a walk during lunch or try a quick stretch behind the desk.
   • Incorporate physical activity into your routine to help manage stress and improve focus.

Mental Health Resources

Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a trained crisis counselor

Library Worker Trauma Support Website - https://urbanlibrariansunite.org/ults

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Call or text 988 for free, confidential support 24/7

Hotlines and Support Services

• NAMI HelpLine:

  • Call 800-950-NAMI (6264)
  • Text "HelpLine" to 62640
  • Chat with a specialist on NAMI.org

• Veterans Crisis Line:

  • Call 988, then press 1
  • Text 838255
  • Chat online with the Veterans Crisis Line

• Disaster Distress Helpline:

  • Call 1-800-985-5990
  • Text "TalkWithUs" to 66746

Apps

• Calm – Offers guided meditations, sleep stories, and relaxation tools.
• Headspace – Great for learning meditation and mindfulness techniques.
• Sanvello – Focuses on stress and anxiety management with tools and journaling features.

Books to Explore

• Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski
• The Cure for Burnout by Emily Ballesteros
• The Self-Care Solution: A Year of Becoming Happier, Healthier, and Fitter by Jennifer Ashton
• Trauma Stewardship: An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Caring for Others by Laura van Dernoot Lipsky
• Self-care for People With ADHD: 100+ Ways to Recharge, De-stress, and Prioritize You! by Sasha Hamdani
• Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included) by Pooja Lakshmin
• Find Your Unicorn Space: Reclaim Your Creative Life in a Too-Busy World by Eve Rodsky

Creating a Library Culture of Mental Health Awareness

Beyond personal self-care, it’s important for library leadership to foster an environment where mental health is prioritized. Some ideas include:

• Offering mental health days for staff.
• Hosting workshops on managing stress and compassion fatigue.
• Creating quiet spaces in the library where staff can decompress.
• Partnering with local mental health organizations to provide additional resources.

Remember You Are Not Alone

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, remember that you’re not alone. There are tools, resources, and people who care about your well-being. Take time to check in with yourself, lean on your support system, and explore the resources that work best for you.

If you ever feel like you’re in crisis or may harm yourself, please seek professional help immediately. There is strength in asking for help, and support is just a call or text away.

With care and support,

the Compassionate Librarian

Libraries Need to Step Up & Support Their Workers

I work in a public library, and while it’s a job I truly love, I’ve found it can sometimes be incredibly challenging, especially when working with unhoused patrons or those facing difficult circumstances. There have been days when the situations I encounter weigh heavily on me. I have so much compassion for these individuals, but there are times when I feel drained and overwhelmed, trying to navigate them to safety while also feeling responsible for their well-being because they are so vulnerable.

The experiences I have had helping unhoused patrons has made me reflect on what Libraries need to do to be more supportive for the staff who show up every day and pour their hearts into their work. 

Here are some practices that Libraries should provide for their workers. These come from my own experiences and through learning from others in the field:

1. Training for Staff

Professional development and training are essential in library work. Providing staff with training gives them the skills to approach challenging interactions with kindness and understanding. This can include:

• De-escalation techniques to handle tense or potentially unsafe situations.
• Trauma-informed care to better support patrons who may be experiencing crises.
• Active listening skills to truly hear and understand patron needs.
• Team building skills are very helpful as well. 

When staff feel prepared to manage tough interactions, it not only reduces their stress but also creates a more supportive environment for patrons.

2. Peer Support Groups

Working in a library, especially with vulnerable populations, can take an emotional toll. Peer support groups give staff a space to connect, vent, and share strategies for managing the challenges of the job. These groups:

• Create a judgment-free zone to discuss workplace stress.
• Provide validation and encouragement from coworkers who understand the struggles firsthand.
• Help staff feel less isolated and more supported.

Sometimes, just knowing someone else has been through a similar experience can make all the difference.

3. Clear Policies for Safety and Inclusion

Safety and inclusion go hand in hand. Having clear, consistently enforced policies helps staff feel secure and ensures patrons know what to expect. Some important policies to consider include:

• A zero-tolerance policy for harassment or violence toward staff or other patrons.
• Conflict resolution protocols that staff can easily follow in challenging situations.
• Inclusivity guidelines to ensure all patrons feel welcome, regardless of their background or circumstances.

These policies create a foundation of trust and mutual respect in the library.

4. Design Spaces with Safety & Support in Mind

The physical layout of a library can have a big impact on how safe and welcoming it feels. Some ideas include:

• Quiet zones where patrons can decompress without distractions.
• Comfortable staff break areas for much-needed downtime during busy shifts.
• Universal accessibility to ensure everyone, including those with disabilities, can fully access the library’s resources.
• Private areas where sensitive conversations or referrals can take place.

Even small changes, like adding soothing colors or natural lighting, can make a space feel more inviting.

5. Foster a Culture of Care

Library support should start from the top down. When leadership prioritizes staff well-being, it trickles down to create a more caring environment for everyone. Some ways to foster this culture include:

• Acknowledging and celebrating staff achievements.
• Encouraging breaks and mental health days without guilt.
• Checking in with staff regularly to see how they’re doing and what support they need.
• Offering flexibility wherever possible to support work-life balance.

When staff feel cared for, they’re better able to extend that care to patrons.

6. Finding Partners to Help & Support

Libraries don’t have to go it alone. Partnering with local organizations can provide staff and patrons with additional resources and support. Examples include:

• Hosting workshops on mental health or conflict resolution for staff and patrons.
• Providing resource guides or referrals for unhoused individuals.
• Partnering with social workers or mental health professionals for on-site assistance.

These partnerships can strengthen the library’s ability to serve its community while reducing the burden on staff.

7. Prioritize Self-Care for Staff

In the midst of serving our communities, it’s easy for library staff to forget to care for themselves. Yet self-care is essential. It helps us recharge, manage stress, and avoid burnout, especially when navigating the unique challenges of library work. Recognizing this, I am creating a self-care course tailored specifically for library workers. This course will e offered to ALA members as a free resource and will offer practical tools and strategies to help library workers prioritize their well-being while continuing to make a meaningful impact in their communities. 

Here are some ways that Libraries can encourage and support self-care:

• Offer Dedicated Self-Care Training: Provide courses and workshops focused on stress management, mindfulness, and work-life balance. (I’m currently designing a self-care course tailored specifically for library workers to serve as a resource for their well-being!)
• Encourage Breaks: Ensure staff feel supported in taking their full breaks without guilt or pressure.
• Create a Culture of Self-Care: Model self-care at all levels of leadership, so staff know it’s a priority, not an afterthought.
• Provide Mental Health Resources: Share information about local counselors, helplines, or stress-relief programs.

When staff practice self-care, they’re better equipped to support patrons and foster a positive, compassionate library environment.

Navigating Through Complex Challenges

Working in a library means navigating complex challenges, but it also means having the opportunity to create meaningful change. By focusing on empathy, safety, and support, we can make libraries more compassionate spaces for everyone, both staff and patrons.

What are some ways your library has fostered safety and compassion? I’d love to hear your ideas and experiences if you'd like to share.

With care and compassion,

the Compassionate Librarian

Celebrating the Heart of Library Work

I always say you never know what a day at the library will bring. Some days, it feels like we’re navigating a storm—rushing to put out fires, managing long lines at the desk, and juggling the many unexpected challenges that come our way. With all of that, there are many wonderful moments that remind us why we’re here, the moments that make all the hard work feel worthwhile.

I’ll never forget one particularly busy day. There were patrons lined up out the door. The phone wouldn’t stop ringing, the printer was broken, and a frustrated patron let me know in no uncertain terms just how upset they were about the situation. By the end of my shift, I felt drained and overwhelmed, questioning myself on why I do this work.

Just as I was wrapping up my day, something remarkable happened. A teen patron I had helped earlier that week returned to the library. She was clutching the book I had helped her pick out. When she saw me she had the biggest smile. She told me how much she loved the book and that it had inspired her to start writing a story of her own. That small interaction completely made my day!

Finding Joy in Small Moments

Helping people is really the heart of library work: the connections we make and the lives we touch. All in the middle of a chaotic day. This really breaks through the noise and reminds me why I do what I do.

I’ve also found immense joy in mentoring new librarians. Recently, I worked with a new staff member who was eager but nervous about their first few weeks on the job. I offered guidance on how to manage tough patron interactions, shared tips for staying organized, and how to navigate the reference desk, I also told them to contact me if they needed anything. Seeing their confidence grow over time was incredibly rewarding. It was a strong reminder of how our work goes beyond books and services.

Balancing the Highs and Lows

Library work can be challenging, but those moments of connection, inspiration, and growth are what keep us going. Whether it’s helping a patron find the information they need, inspiring someone to try something new, or finding resources for an unhoused patron, these small victories remind us of the profound impact libraries have on people’s lives.

A Celebration of Purpose

The heart of library work isn’t in the policies, the systems, or the endless tasks we manage. It’s in the stories—the ones we help others create and the ones we create for ourselves through the connections we make.

So, on those tough days, when it feels like everything is going wrong, I try to hold on to those moments of joy. They’re small, but they’re mighty, and they make all the difference.

What are the moments that remind you of why you love library work? I’d love to hear your stories.

With joy and gratitude,
The Compassionate Librarian

Realistic Self-Care For Library Life

Let’s face it, working in a library isn’t always the peaceful experience people imagine. Some days test us more than others, especially when we’re juggling multiple tasks and difficult patrons. Back in 2021, my library faced one of the toughest periods after the pandemic. We had a large influx of emotionally challenged patrons and unhoused individuals facing significant difficulties and each day presented new challenges. To make even more compounded we had no support from our community leaders or from our library admin. We felt like we were alone on an island trying to survive. 

What's even harder is that as library staff, we often strive to offer compassion and understanding, but the emotional toll it can take on us is undeniable. I’ll never forget one particularly stressful incident when a patron, overwhelmed by their own frustrations, screamed obscenities at me and called me horrible names. It left me feeling shaken and drained for days. What was worse is that it affected me at home too and I retreated inside myself. It was then that I realized I needed to do something to regroup because  I knew that I wasn't the only one that was feeling overwhelmed at my library and other staff were finding it difficult to manage stressful situations as well. I found a quiet corner in the break room, took a comfy chair, bought some fuzzy blankets and comfy pillows. I added a teapot with an assortment of tea and a small waterfall for a peaceful sound. The last thing I did was put up a screen for privacy. I named this comfy peaceful corner the Zen Den. I then offered staff the option to take short breaks and made a world of difference. It gave everyone the reset they needed to finish their shifts with a clear head and a calmer demeanor.  This experience was the spark for creating something more intentional for myself and my team. Creating a dedicated space where staff can take a moment to decompress after challenging interactions has made a huge difference in staff's happiness and morale. 

The Zen Den is a little oasis in our break room designed for moments just like these. It’s a space where staff can retreat during their break or after a tough interaction with a patron. Whether it’s to enjoy a cup of tea, sit quietly, or simply take a breath, the Zen Den offers a place to rest and recharge. Since its creation, the space has been incredibly well-received. Staff members often share how much they appreciate having this comforting nook to help them navigate the more difficult moments of library life.

What I’ve learned is that self-care doesn’t have to be elaborate or time-consuming. Even five minutes of stepping away, breathing deeply, or finding a moment of calm can make a significant difference. It’s about giving yourself permission to pause and reset when you need it most.

Things that I've learned over the years of working in a public library is that if you’re having a tough day, try these simple self-care strategies:

1. Step Away: Take a few minutes to leave the situation, even if it’s just to grab some water or step outside for fresh air.

2. Breathe: Practice deep breathing—inhale for four counts, hold for four counts, and exhale for four counts.

3. Find Comfort: Keep something soothing nearby, like a favorite tea, a stress ball, or even a calming app on your phone.

4. Create Your Own Zen Den: If possible, set up a small calming space at work where you and your colleagues can decompress.

Remember, small actions can make a big difference. When we take care of ourselves, we’re better equipped to take care of others—whether they’re our patrons or our teammates. 

Do you have some self-care practices that you use at your library? Share your thoughts in the comments. I’d love to hear your ideas.

With love & care,
the Compassionate Librarian

Compassion Fatigue in Library Work: Recognizing It and Reclaiming Your Energy

Compassion Fatigue: Running on Empty

I'd like to share a little about compassion fatigue because I have a lot of experience working in a public library with many different community member and that includes unhoused patrons. It can sometimes be very difficult to balance out your work and your internal feelings on helping others. I always say that library work has many rewards, but it can also take a lot out of you and for a variety of different reasons. We are continually pouring our hearts into serving our communities and unfortunately when we over do it, compassion fatigue can sneak up when we least expect it. It can sometimes be hard to detect though, and you might think it's just burnout, but compassion fatigue is a bit heavier in your soul—a lingering weariness so to speak that stems from consistently giving so much of ourselves to others, but as I mentioned in another post, you can pour from an empty cup, so you really need to be aware of how you are feeling and the signs to look for. 

What is Compassion Fatigue?

So, let's dive into this and start to unpack what compassion fatigue is all about. Compassion fatigue is the physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion that comes from caring for others, especially in emotionally challenging environments. It’s very common among library staff who support vulnerable populations, manage high-stress interactions, or carry the weight of their community’s needs.

Signs of Compassion Fatigue:

• Feeling emotionally drained or detached.
• A sense of dread when going to work.
• Physical symptoms like fatigue or headaches.
• Difficulty finding joy in the work you once loved.

How I Began to Heal

I’ve experienced compassion fatigue firsthand, and it’s not easy to admit when you’re struggling. There was a time when I felt utterly depleted after dealing with stressful situations, compounded by the demands of daily library work. What helped me was taking small, intentional steps to prioritize my well-being:

1. Acknowledging the Struggle:
   The first step was recognizing that what I was feeling wasn’t weakness—it's hard to do this, but I had to understand that it was a natural response to prolonged emotional stress.

2. Setting Boundaries:
   I learned to say no to tasks that exceeded my capacity and to create space for myself, even if just for a few minutes during the workday.

3. Seeking Support:
   Talking to colleagues who understood the challenges of library work was incredibly validating. Sometimes, just knowing you’re not alone can make all the difference.

4. Rediscovering Joy:
   I made it a point to focus on the small moments that brought me happiness, like a kind word from a patron or the satisfaction of organizing a new display.

Reclaiming Your Energy

If you feel like you are going through compassion fatigue, here are some steps to help you heal:

• Pause and Reflect:
  Take time to acknowledge how you’re feeling without judgment. Journaling can help you process emotions and identify what’s causing stress.

• Practice Restorative Activities:
  Whether it’s yoga, reading, or taking a walk in nature, find activities that help you recharge. Even small moments of rest can make a big difference.

• Focus on What You Can Control:
  Shift your energy toward things you can positively influence and let go of what’s beyond your control.

• Celebrate Small Wins:
  Remember the positive impact of your work. Reflect on the lives you’ve touched and the difference you make every day.

Remember, taking care of yourself is an act of strength. Compassion fatigue doesn’t diminish the incredible work you do—it’s a reminder to show yourself the same care you give to others. And please always seek mental health help or reach out to professionals if needed. 

What are your experiences with compassion fatigue and how did you manage or get through it? I'd love to hear from you. Please hare your thoughts in the comments.

Take care,

the Compassionate Librarian