You Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup: The Reality of Compassion Fatigue

Understanding Compassion Fatigue

Compassion fatigue is real, and it’s something library workers experience all the time. When you spend your days helping others, especially those facing hardships, you give a lot of yourself. Over time, that constant emotional output can lead to exhaustion, frustration, and even questioning why you chose to do this work in the first place. I say it all the time: “Did I choose the wrong field?” I do love working in a library, but there are many times that I feel like it’s really overwhelming. So, it’s important to recognize when you’re feeling depleted, because ignoring it doesn’t make it go away.

Importance of Self-Care

I recently heard the saying “You can’t pour from an empty cup.” This saying really resonates with me and sounds all too true. It’s easy to see how library workers become overloaded and overstressed. I see it all too often in library-related email threads; so many library workers are looking to leave the field entirely, seeking roles that offer better balance and support. We don’t have to leave the library field entirely to do this. There are some ways we can practice self-care to get that better balance we’re looking for. Some of the things that can help are practicing mindfulness and setting clear boundaries. I’ve experienced this firsthand, and believe me, I wish I could go back in time and set more boundaries, but I can only go forward now, and the boundaries are up! Another big one is practicing saying no instead of always instinctively saying yes. I know this one is hard, especially for someone who wants to please everyone. In the long run, one of the best ways you can practice self-care and set those boundaries is practice saying no. I know it can be hard to say no, but you've got to at least try to say no sometimes.

Another important thing I’ve learned along the way is that a daily self-care routine helps you recharge, stay balanced, and manage stress more effectively. If you can prioritize even a few small self-care habits each day, it can make a big difference in your mental, emotional, and physical well-being, or from a holistic perspective, mind, body, & spirit. Some simple self-care activities I’ve tried to incorporate into my day are journaling my thoughts, going for walks outside, and engaging in a hobby that I love. Another important one is taking time to hydrate and nourish your body. The key here is consistency. Remember that small, intentional acts of self-care add up over time and help you to be healthier, happier, and more resilient.

Navigating the Challenges & Finding Balance

Despite the hard days, many of us stay in this field because we believe in what libraries stand for and we love working with our patrons and our communities. We know the difference libraries can make in people’s lives, and that’s what keeps many of us going. So, here’s what I think will help us to continue doing this work in a way that’s sustainable. We have to take care of ourselves; actually, this is a must! This means setting boundaries, knowing when to step back and say no, and try this one out too, let’s lean on our coworkers and our support systems when we need to. We’ll talk about support systems later in unit four. Here’s another one I fit in quite often—take time off when you need it. This is practicing self-care even if it’s just one day or a half day. This time off is essential in order to refresh and recharge, especially if you are feeling overwhelmed.

Acknowledging Library Work

We all know that library work is important and very meaningful, but we also know that it can be emotionally draining and demanding. Here’s what we can do. We can acknowledge that there are hard parts to library work, but that doesn’t mean that we don’t love the library. We still do. It just means that we need to be honest about the demands and know what we need to do to take care of ourselves.

I’d like to share something that has always been helpful for me. It's talking about my library experiences with other library workers and trusted family members. Whether it's wild stories that happen in the library or sweet stories about helping patrons find books, or even difficulties with other workers or upper management, it really helps to share your experiences. Many times I have felt my passion for libraries falter when something unheard of happens at my library. After talking about it, I feel a lot better, and my passion for my work can be reignited, but sometimes it takes time.

Taking time for yourself and practicing self-care is not selfish. The main key point is that we have to remember that self-care is a necessary element that we need in our lives to thrive.

The more we talk about the challenges of library work, the more we can support each other. One of my goals is to bring library workers together to create a self-care revolution where we all support each other. We have to remember that we are not alone in this work, and we don’t have to navigate it alone or in isolation either. Together we are stronger. By coming together and sharing our experiences and prioritizing our self-care, we can become stronger and more resilient. Send me a message if you're interested in chatting 💛

We're in this together,

the Compassionate Librarian

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Mercury in Retrograde: When the Stars Mess With Your Library Chi

 Today, Mercury is in retrograde and it came for my library chi… and my keyboard.

Picture this: my laptop suddenly flips into full-on CAPS LOCK, I couldn’t scroll, completely frozen, and then when I click to unlock caps—everything starts coming out in lowercase. Opposite world.

If that isn’t a metaphor for how Mercury in retrograde feels in a library, I don’t know what is. And really? Do we need this cosmic chaos right in the middle of Summer Reading? Absolutely not!

Miscommunication Central

Retrograde is famous for messing with communication, and you can feel it everywhere:

• “You never told me about the due date!”

• “Wait—you thought I was covering storytime?”

• 17 people show up for a meeting room no one actually reserved.

• You've got 50 piles of phone messages and no one is emailing you. 

Tech Gremlins Everywhere

When Mercury is spinning backward, it’s like the library’s chi gets knocked off balance. Suddenly:

• The catalog freezes at the exact moment the line is longest.

• Self-check machines decide they’ve had enough of humanity.

• The Wi-Fi has gone on a vacation.

Patience (and Humor) Saves the Day

The truth is, Mercury retrograde is basically the universe telling us to slow down, double-check, and breathe. It’s like a cosmic post-it note that says:

“Your chi is a bit wobbly. Re-center.”

Sometimes, the only way through is with an eye roll and a well-timed snack.

How to Keep Your Library Chi in Balance

• Confirm program details twice: especially dates during summer reading.

• Keep paper backups for anything you truly need for example event guest lists.

• Assume tech will betray you and plan accordingly, and it will you know it.

• Laugh. A lot. Preferably with people who also know what it’s like to fight with a printer (yes we are kindred souls!).

Mercury will be in retrograde until mid August. Until then, if your library chi feels completely out of whack, remember: sometimes the fault really is in our stars.

Be gentle with yourself during these retrograde weeks. Add a little extra self-care to your day—take five minutes to breathe, play your favorite song on repeat, and keep a water bottle nearby. A little kindness (to yourself and others) goes a long way when the universe is doing its cosmic spin cycle.

Stay aligned if you can,

the Compassionate Librarian

A fun video that gives an explanation of Mercury in Retrograde and what to do and not to do.

The Heat is On: Tackling Summer Overload in the Library World (Powered by Overthinking and Exhaustion)

There are mornings when I wake up with a thousand ideas. By the time I hit the library, I’ve planned three programs in my head, solved two staffing challenges, rewritten our onboarding guide (mentally), and probably designed a new logo in Canva while waiting for my coffee to brew and humming a song I made up about the library that goes to the tune of We Built This City. It's a crazy world and I'm just living in it.

The Big-Thinker Trap

I love ideas. I love solving things. I love making the library a magical, engaging space. I want it to feel like something is always happening, especially for kids and families. The one thing I keep forgetting is that somewhere between my vision and actual reality is this little thing called capacity.

Sometimes I look at my calendar and think, "Who scheduled all this?!" Then I remember: oh yeah. It was me.

Summer Reading Energy: Maximum Overdrive

Right now, We're all living in it. It’s June. It’s Summer Reading. At my library we've got Summer Lunch too, and I want our library to be the place to be. So what did I do? I packed our calendar like a suitcase for a month-long trip with only a carry-on. There are crafts, activities, guests, giveaways, and chaos. Beautiful, joyful chaos.

Here’s what people outside of libraries don’t always realize:
If the holidays are retail’s busiest season, summer is the Library's busiest time of the year.
The kids are out of school. Caregivers need support. The community turns to us for free programs, safe spaces, and meaningful engagement. We show up and we show up BIG.

And also? We get exhausted.

Here’s the difference this year: This year I reach out to staff and I asked for help and we created a Summer Reading/Summer Lunch Team! I let go of the idea that I had to run every program, troubleshoot every detail, and personally glitter-glue the path to the end of the summer. What about our Summer Team? They’re showing up! Doing it up right. They’re helping make the magic real and I love that so much!




"You’re Doing Too Much, Bro"

Have you heard this Gen Z phrase? You're Doing Too Much, Bro. It’s said with humor or a bit of snark, but it really hits home when you think about it.

When your to-do list is a scroll, your inbox is overflowing, and you’re mentally writing meeting agendas at red lights, it’s time to pause.

It doesn’t mean you care any less. It means your caring has overflowed its container. At this point, it's time to remind yourself it’s okay to scale back. It’s okay to rest. Remember you can't pour from an empty cup.

What I’m Learning (Still)

I don’t have to prove my worth by how much I do (I'm just fine)


Delegation is a strategy (The more the merrier!)


Saying “no” sometimes is like saying “yes” to your own self-care (A little no never hurt)


The library will survive if I leave a few white spaces on the calendar (Cringing over here, LOL!)


The best kind of magic happens when you let others co-create it (This is so true!)


Final Thoughts

If you’re a big thinker with a big heart, just know this: You’re enough, even when you’re not knocking yourself over with exhaustion. You don’t have to overdo it to make a beautiful and meaningful summer at the library.

My motto is Self-care isn’t Selfish. Especially in library work. It’s how we stay strong, creative, and resilient. If you’re feeling the burnout creep in, or just want practical strategies for maintaining balance in your library life, I invite you to check out my course on ALA eLearning: It's free to all ALA members.

Self-Care for Library Workers

It’s full of real talk, helpful tools, and reminders that you matter too.

Remember to Breathe... Just breathe. Pass the glue stick. It'll all be over soon. 

If no one else says it today I will: You’re doing great. But also…you might just be doing too much.

Dark Times For Libraries: Keeping the Lights On Together

This is my twentieth year working in a library. I've worked in public and school libraries, and in that time, I’ve seen libraries evolve, adapt, and rise to meet the needs of their communities over and over again. I’ve seen how libraries transform lives, provide safety nets, and bring people together in ways that are quite profound.

🕯️I’m not sure I’ve ever seen a darker time for libraries than right now🕯️

Between budget cuts, the changes with IMLS, and the growing uncertainty about our future, many of us are feeling the weight of it all. It’s a lot to carry and if you're feeling stressed or overwhelmed about it, you’re not alone.

Libraries are often seen as the hub of the community. Did you know that libraries can:

• Offer a safe place for unhoused individuals to rest, recharge, and feel human

• Provide free internet, printing, and access to technology many can’t afford at home

• Help with job applications, resumes, and unemployment benefits

• Guide people through complicated forms, housing applications, and social services

• Answer reference questions, from simple curiosities to urgent health or legal concerns

• Share accurate, reliable information in an age of misinformation

• Offer programs that support early literacy, workforce development, mental health, and more

• Welcome families, teens, seniors, and everyone in between—no questions asked

• Connect people to the world of books, imagination, learning, and lifelong curiosity

The Lake Oswego Library in Oregon helped people get their books by creating their "Librarian is IN" service in the parking lot during the pandemic. Photo courtesy of City of Lake Oswego. 

During the pandemic, many of us were frontline workers. We served our communities at our front doors, sometimes in parking lots like the Lake Oswego Library, and sometimes virtually from our living rooms. Some of us volunteered as disaster workers, answered phones in call centers, distributed supplies, and provided free printing and hotspots for vulnerable populations to help them stay connected. We chatted on the phone with people who just needed a human voice. One woman called simply to hear what was in the collection because she was lonely and missed the sound of someone speaking to her.

My point is that we've never stopped helping and we made it through a very challenging time. We adapted, we pivoted, and we found new ways to serve the public. Because that's what library workers do.

What gives me hope are the people who love and care about libraries. The librarians, the library staff, the volunteers, the patrons, the advocates, the neighbors, our partners, and more. 

I know one thing. Library workers are resilient. When things get hard, we show up and we just keep going. We will figure this out one step at a time.

 

Show Your Support

Here are a few simple ways you can help:

• Write a note to your local representatives about why libraries matter

• Post a memory or message on social media using #LibrariesTransform

• Submit a letter to the editor of your local paper

• Tell a friend, neighbor, or coworker how the library has impacted your life

How Are You Feeling? Don’t Forget to Practice Self-Care

If all of this feels really heavy, just remember that you’re not alone and you don’t have to carry it alone. When we’re under a lot of stress, taking care of ourselves is very important.

Make sure to find time for rest. Try to reach out for support. Do something kind for yourself today.

If you’re looking for guidance, inspiration, or gentle ways to support your own wellbeing, my self-paced course Self-Care for Library Workers will be launching through the American Library Association's eLearning platform. Stay tuned, it should be coming out very soon!

Want to Talk or Share A Story?

If you’re feeling overwhelmed because of the changes that libraries are facing I’d love to hear from you. Feel free to leave a comment or reach out to me directly at teachingmydream@gmail.com.

We can get through this together, 

the Compassionate Librarian 💛

The Healing Power of Music: A Soundtrack for Self-Care

There’s something magical about music. A single song can shift your mood, ground your thoughts, or lift your spirits in just a few notes. For me, music has always been one of the simplest—and most powerful—forms of self-care. Whether I’m winding down after a long day, needing a confidence boost, or just looking for something to make me smile, I turn to my personal soundtrack.

Music as a Self-Care Tool

Did you know that listening to music can be a self-care tool? Yes! It can be an awesome self-care tool. You don’t need a fancy playlist (though curating one is part of the fun). All you need is a few songs that really speak to you.

Here are some of the ways music supports emotional and mental well-being:

Calming Songs for Stress Relief

Soft, slow melodies can help lower your heart rate and bring your nervous system back to baseline. Perfect for anxious moments or quiet time. I call this my "Breathe & Reset" playlist.

Power Ballads & Anthems for Strength
Need a pick-me-up before a big presentation or tough conversation? Cue the empowering songs. The ones that make you stand taller, sing louder, and feel unstoppable. My "You’ve Got This" soundtrack is full of them.

Feel-Good Songs for Joy
These are the songs that make you dance in the kitchen, sing in the car, or just smile out of nowhere. I keep a playlist I call "Instant Joy" for those exact moments.

Music simply meets you where you are—and that’s the essence of self-care.

Why Music Works as Self-Care

• Music reduces stress. Listening to music has been shown to decrease the stress hormone cortisol. According to an article in Harmony & Healing, a study was conducted by the British Academy of Sound that found 74% of participants reported that calming music helped them to reduce anxiety and improve their state of rest, a marker of stress resilience.

• It boosts your mood. Music activates the brain's reward center, releasing dopamine—the “feel good” chemical. This is especially true for songs that evoke strong emotional memories or have a beat we love.

• It improves focus and sleep. Certain types of music can improve concentration and even help you fall asleep faster. Research from the National Sleep Foundation found that people who listened to music before bed reported better sleep quality.

• It connects us to others. Shared playlists, concerts, or even hearing a familiar song in a public place can create a sense of community and belonging—which is a powerful form of emotional support.

• It encourages movement. Upbeat songs naturally make us want to move, which helps release endorphins and boost our energy levels—even if we’re just dancing around the kitchen.

According to an article by the American Psychological Association, music has played a large part of helping COVID patients with delirium recover. Music's power over our brains is quite phenomenal.

Your Personal Soundtrack = Your Self-Care Toolkit

One of my favorite ways to use music as self-care is to create playlists based on my needs. I went through a long period of distress after having a catastrophic surgery that left me wondering my place in the world. I don't know how I found it or maybe it found me, but the music of German DJ and record producer TheFatRat changed my life. I listened to the soundtrack for in 2021 for at least a year. It got me through my transition in life, through writing my first book, which was laborious and intense. It got me through so much and I will never forget how it makes me feel. I'll share the songs below and what they mean to me and why I love them so much. I realize that TheFatRat may not be your cup of tea, but for me it is a shining light that got me through my darkest days. 

TheFatRat with Anna Yvette & Laura Brehm - Chosen - There's just something special about this song. If you’ve ever needed a reminder that you are stronger than you think—that your voice matters and your path is yours to walk—“Chosen” is that reminder wrapped in music.

TheFatRat feat. Laura Brehm - Mayday - captures the feeling of being on the edge—calling out for help when everything feels like it’s crashing down. It’s a raw and vulnerable track, yet there’s strength woven into every note.

TheFatRat - No No No - are you trying to practice putting up boundaries in your life? This song will help you say no no no. Whether you’re saying no to overworking, toxic relationships, unrealistic expectations, or anything that drains your energy, this track gives you permission to hold your ground.

TheFatRat - Infinite Power - Need a burst of motivation to get you moving, focused, or just fired up to tackle the day? This song is pure energy in audio form.

I could keep going, but these are probably my top favorites.

Different Themes for Musical Self-Care

Breathe & Reset – My go-to for stress, anxiety, or when I just need to calm my nervous system.

You’ve Got This – Powerful songs and energizing anthems that help me show up with confidence and courage.

Instant Joy – The feel-good songs that never fail to lift my spirits and make me smile (or dance in the living room!).

What’s on Your Playlist?

Drop a comment or message me with your favorite self-care songs—and let’s co-create a playlist filled with hope, healing, and harmony, the total self-care package!

Because sometimes, the best way to care for yourself…
is to hit play. 

Wishing you joyful moments and music that moves you!

the Compassionate Librarian

The Future of Libraries: Breaking Away From Our Restraints

Libraries are evolving faster than ever, adapting to shifting community needs, advancing technology, and an ever-expanding role as busy community hubs. While this transformation is exciting, it also places a large amount of pressure on library workers. Burnout, compassion fatigue, and unrealistic expectations often leave staff feeling overwhelmed. With all of this in mind, what libraries really need to be working toward is a future that fosters a culture of self-compassion and self-care. I believe this shift is exactly what we need to in order to rise up and thrive. I my mind I’ve been calling it a self-care revolution. I myself don’t even know how much longer I can continue to work in a library. I'm feeling so chained down and restricted lately. I’ve spent years balancing heavy workloads, constant changes, and the emotional weight of serving my community while trying not to burn out. At times, it feels like I’m on an island all alone and I’m trying to put out fires and basically just survive each day. I’m sure there are others that feel this way too, in fact I know there are. If we don’t break away from this current culture of unsupportive restriction and move toward a more encouraging and inspiring one we will continue to lose passionate and dedicated staff because of the lack of support and burnout.

Why Self-Compassion Matters in Libraries

Many library workers dedicate themselves to serving the public, often placing the needs of patrons above their own. However, chronic stress and emotional exhaustion can lead to burnout. Taking time to care for yourself is not indulgent, it is something that we all must do. This allows us to acknowledge our own struggles, set realistic boundaries, and recover from the emotional demands of our work in libraries.

A workplace that fosters self-compassion:

• Encourages staff to take breaks without guilt.

• Normalizes the emotional toll of public service.

• Creates an environment where workers feel valued and supported.

Without self-compassion, library workers are at risk of emotional depletion. Prioritizing self-compassion can lead to better job satisfaction, stronger team dynamics, and a healthier work environment overall.

Advocating for Yourself in the Library Workplace

Many library workers struggle with self-advocacy, whether due to hierarchical structures, fear of being seen as a complainer or simply being too overextended to ask for help. However, advocating for yourself is key to long-term sustainability in this field.

Ways to advocate for yourself in the library workplace include:

• Setting Boundaries – It’s okay to say no to extra tasks beyond your role or capacity. Overextending yourself can be harmful to your mental and/or physical health and it doesn’t serve you or your community if you are overloaded or overwhelmed.

• Communicate Your Needs Clearly – If workload expectations are unrealistic, speak up. Ask for more support, ask for help adjusting responsibilities or modifying deadlines.

• Prioritizing Rest and Recovery – Requesting time off or scheduling regular breaks isn’t a luxury—it’s a way to get more rest and better balance in our lives.

• Seeking Professional Development – Advocate for training and resources that help you to expand your skills and grow, which will enhance your job skills for any future work.

It’s frustrating that library workers are constantly expected to do more and more without any support. We need to advocate for ourselves and prioritizes our wellbeing, we actually have to stand up for ourselves and make our own self-care a priority.

Creating a Supportive Network in the Library

Library work can sometimes feel isolating, especially when dealing with difficult patron interactions or heavy workloads. Building a strong support network helps foster resilience and emotional well-being.

• Find Your People – Identify colleagues who share your values and commitment to mutual support. Having trusted co-workers to vent to or collaborate with can make challenges more manageable.

• Encourage Peer Mentorship – Formal or informal mentoring relationships can help staff navigate challenges, gain perspective, and develop new coping strategies.

• Practice Workplace Gratitude – A culture of appreciation goes a long way in making library work feel fulfilling rather than draining. Recognizing each other’s contributions can help boost morale.

• Push for Institutional Support – Advocate for leadership to implement mental health initiatives, structured debriefing sessions after difficult incidents, and employee wellness programs.

Realistic Expectations for Self-Care in Libraries

The idea of self-care is often reduced to spa days or bubble baths, but in reality, self-care is about creating realistic and sustainable habits that fit into your daily life. Library workers need self-care strategies that are both practical and workplace-friendly.

Here are some realistic self-care practices that can be incorporated into the library setting:

• Micro-Breaks – Even 5-minute breathers between interactions can make a difference.

• Mindful Transitions – Before jumping from one task to the next, take a moment to reset and refocus.

• Workspace Comfort – Adjusting your desk setup, adding a small plant, or listening to calming music (when possible) can help create a more supportive environment.

• Knowing When to Step Away – If an interaction with a patron is escalating, knowing when to involve a supervisor or security is a form of professional self-care.

• After-Work Decompression – Establishing an end-of-day ritual (journaling, walking, listening to music) can help transition out of “work mode” and into rest.

The Future of Libraries Needs to be a Future of Self-Care

We know that libraries are essential, but so are the people who work in them. A sustainable future for libraries requires not just innovation in services, but a commitment to staff wellbeing. By fostering self-compassion, self-advocacy, supportive networks, and realistic self-care practices, we can build resilient workplaces where library workers can thrive, not just survive.

I really love working in a library. It has the best of both worlds, books, programming, engaging with the public, and working with an awesome library crew. I think we all need to realize that the future of libraries isn’t just about what we offer patrons. It’s about taking a deep look into the care of the people who are working in the libraries.

💬 How do you practice self-compassion in your library work? I’d love to  in the comments!

All the best,

the Compassionate LIbrarian

Pause, Breathe, & Take Time For Yourself

If You’re Reading This, You Might Just Be in Need of Some Self-Care

If you find yourself here at the Compassionate Librarian blog you might be in need of some self-care. The first thing you can do is pause for a moment and take a deep breath. Maybe you’ve been running on empty, giving your all at work, or just feeling stretched too thin. It happens to the best of us. The good news is you can take some time for yourself to practice self-care.

Some days, it’s easy to juggle everything with a smile. But other days? Not so much. Today, for example, I’m not feeling well, and managing my own energy is hard enough—let alone handling complaints, endless questions, and unexpected issues at the library. On days like this, it’s easy to put yourself last because everything feels urgent. But that’s exactly when self-care becomes most important.

What does self-care look like on tough days?
It doesn’t have to be big or elaborate. Sometimes it’s about doing what you can—even if it’s small:

• Take a break. Step away for five minutes, even if it’s just to breathe or drink water.
• Lower the bar. Give yourself permission to do the essentials and let go of perfection.
• Create a small comfort ritual. Have a cup of tea, put on music that calms you, or take a short walk around the building.
• Ask for help. Lean on your team when you need it. We’re better when we support each other.
• Remind yourself: This moment will pass. Hard days come and go. Be kind to yourself in the middle of it all.

The reality is, working with the public service can be really demanding. We show up for others, often when we’re not at our best. But self-care is what makes it sustainable. It’s not selfish—it’s survival.

So, if you’re reading this, take a moment for yourself today if you can, if not please try for tomorrow. You’ve earned it. And if all you do is breathe deeply and remind yourself you’re doing your best, that’s enough.

Sending super big hugs!

the Compassionate Librarian

Mental Health Resources for Self-Care

Libraries are wonderful and you're surrounded by books, which is amazing, but if you are library staff or volunteer at a library you may find it can sometimes be emotionally and/or mentally draining. Library staff juggle a variety of roles. We help patrons in need, manage community challenges, and balance the growing demands of our tasks. With such a wide range of responsibilities, it’s easy to feel stretched thin. That’s why taking care of your mental health is so important.

Today, I want to share a variety of tips and resources that can help. Whether you’re dealing with compassion fatigue, workplace stress, overwhelmed with school assignments, or just need a moment to breathe, there’s something here to help with your well-being.

Tips for Protecting Your Mental Health

1. Set Boundaries

   • Know your limits when working with challenging patrons or overwhelming workloads. It’s okay to say no or ask for help when you need it.
   • Establish clear times for breaks, even if it’s just stepping away for five minutes.

2. Practice Mindfulness

   • Take a few moments during your day to pause and breathe. Apps like Calm or Insight Timer offer guided meditations perfect for quick mental resets.
   • Practice grounding techniques, like focusing on five things you can see, four you can touch, three you can hear, two you can smell, and one you can taste.

3. Lean on Peer Support

   • Connect with coworkers to share experiences, frustrations, and strategies. Peer support groups can make a big difference in feeling less isolated.
   • Celebrate small wins together, like successfully managing a difficult situation or hosting a successful program.

4. Find a Hobby or Start a Creative Project

   • Engaging in a hobby or creative activity can work wonders for your mental health. Whether it’s painting, gardening, writing, or learning a new skill, doing something you enjoy can help you unwind and bring joy to your day.
   • If you’re not sure where to start, think about something you’ve always wanted to try. A new creative project might be just what you need to recharge.

5. Spend Time with Friends or Loved Ones

   • Social connection is a powerful way to relieve stress and improve mental health. Plan an outing with friends or family—a hike in nature, lunch at a favorite spot, or a visit to a tea café for a cozy teatime treat.
   • Remember the phrase “Treat Yo’ Self.” Whether it’s splurging on a fancy dessert or booking that much-needed massage, doing something fun with loved ones can lift your spirits and help you feel supported.

6. Stay Active

   • Movement can do wonders for your mental health. Take a walk during lunch or try a quick stretch behind the desk.
   • Incorporate physical activity into your routine to help manage stress and improve focus.

Mental Health Resources

Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a trained crisis counselor

Library Worker Trauma Support Website - https://urbanlibrariansunite.org/ults

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: Call or text 988 for free, confidential support 24/7

Hotlines and Support Services

• NAMI HelpLine:

  • Call 800-950-NAMI (6264)
  • Text "HelpLine" to 62640
  • Chat with a specialist on NAMI.org

• Veterans Crisis Line:

  • Call 988, then press 1
  • Text 838255
  • Chat online with the Veterans Crisis Line

• Disaster Distress Helpline:

  • Call 1-800-985-5990
  • Text "TalkWithUs" to 66746

Apps

• Calm – Offers guided meditations, sleep stories, and relaxation tools.
• Headspace – Great for learning meditation and mindfulness techniques.
• Sanvello – Focuses on stress and anxiety management with tools and journaling features.

Books to Explore

• Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski
• The Cure for Burnout by Emily Ballesteros
• The Self-Care Solution: A Year of Becoming Happier, Healthier, and Fitter by Jennifer Ashton
• Trauma Stewardship: An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Caring for Others by Laura van Dernoot Lipsky
• Self-care for People With ADHD: 100+ Ways to Recharge, De-stress, and Prioritize You! by Sasha Hamdani
• Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included) by Pooja Lakshmin
• Find Your Unicorn Space: Reclaim Your Creative Life in a Too-Busy World by Eve Rodsky

Creating a Library Culture of Mental Health Awareness

Beyond personal self-care, it’s important for library leadership to foster an environment where mental health is prioritized. Some ideas include:

• Offering mental health days for staff.
• Hosting workshops on managing stress and compassion fatigue.
• Creating quiet spaces in the library where staff can decompress.
• Partnering with local mental health organizations to provide additional resources.

Remember You Are Not Alone

If you’re feeling overwhelmed, remember that you’re not alone. There are tools, resources, and people who care about your well-being. Take time to check in with yourself, lean on your support system, and explore the resources that work best for you.

If you ever feel like you’re in crisis or may harm yourself, please seek professional help immediately. There is strength in asking for help, and support is just a call or text away.

With care and support,

the Compassionate Librarian

The Benefits of Taking Your Lunch Break

In the fast-paced world of library work, it can be all too easy to skip your lunch break or spend it glued to your desk. There’s always another patron to help, a program to plan, or emails to answer. But here’s the truth: skipping your break doesn’t make you more productive—it makes you more exhausted. I've skipped my lunch break many times only to find myself feeling completely worn out and unable to focus by late afternoon. It is definitely not worth skipping. Taking your lunch break is a matter of self-care and a big necessity. We need a real, intentional break in the middle of our day which can help us reset, recharge, and refocus, making the rest of the day more manageable and enjoyable. 

Let’s explore why lunch breaks matter and how you can make the most of them.

Why Your Lunch Break Matters

1. Boosts Your Productivity: Stepping away from work, even for 30 minutes, helps your brain rest and recharge, making you more effective when you return.
2. Reduces Stress: Taking time for yourself, especially if you can step outside or do something enjoyable, lowers stress levels and improves overall mood.
3. Supports Physical Health: Eating mindfully and giving your body time to relax during lunch can improve digestion and prevent burnout.

How to Reclaim Your Lunch Break

Here are some simple strategies to ensure your lunch break becomes a moment of restoration, not just another item on your to-do list:

1. Step Outside

• Spending even a few minutes outdoors can work wonders. Fresh air, sunlight, and a change of scenery can help you feel more grounded and refreshed.
• If your library is in a busy area, find a nearby park, or even take a quick stroll around the building.

2. Eat Mindfully

• Instead of rushing through your meal or multitasking, take the time to enjoy your food.
• Put away screens, savor each bite, and focus on how your meal tastes and feels. Mindful eating not only enhances your lunch experience but also aids digestion and reduces stress.

3. Journal or Reflect

• Use part of your lunch break to jot down your thoughts, reflect on your day so far, or set intentions for the rest of it.
• A small notebook or a journaling app can be a great companion for clearing your mind and boosting creativity.

4. Engage in a Relaxing Activity

• Listen to your favorite music or podcast, read a few pages of a book, or do a quick meditation.
• Activities like these can help you recharge without feeling rushed or overwhelmed.

5. Socialize (only if it’s energizing for you)

• If you enjoy connecting with coworkers, invite a colleague to join you for lunch or a short walk. Sharing a break can foster camaraderie and make your day feel lighter.

6. Protect Your Break Time

• Set boundaries to ensure you actually take your break. Let coworkers know you’re unavailable during lunch, and avoid checking work emails or tasks.

Making It a Habit

Reclaiming your lunch break starts with prioritizing it. Add it to your schedule like any other important appointment. Remember, you deserve this time to care for yourself—it’s not a luxury, but a critical part of staying balanced and effective in your work.

Share Your Lunch Break Wins

Do you have a favorite way to spend your lunch break? Whether it’s a mindful walk, a delicious meal, or a few moments of quiet, I’d love to hear your tips and experiences in the comments!

With Care & Concern,
the Compassionate Librarian

Libraries Need to Step Up & Support Their Workers

I work in a public library, and while it’s a job I truly love, I’ve found it can sometimes be incredibly challenging, especially when working with unhoused patrons or those facing difficult circumstances. There have been days when the situations I encounter weigh heavily on me. I have so much compassion for these individuals, but there are times when I feel drained and overwhelmed, trying to navigate them to safety while also feeling responsible for their well-being because they are so vulnerable.

The experiences I have had helping unhoused patrons has made me reflect on what Libraries need to do to be more supportive for the staff who show up every day and pour their hearts into their work. 

Here are some practices that Libraries should provide for their workers. These come from my own experiences and through learning from others in the field:

1. Training for Staff

Professional development and training are essential in library work. Providing staff with training gives them the skills to approach challenging interactions with kindness and understanding. This can include:

• De-escalation techniques to handle tense or potentially unsafe situations.
• Trauma-informed care to better support patrons who may be experiencing crises.
• Active listening skills to truly hear and understand patron needs.
• Team building skills are very helpful as well. 

When staff feel prepared to manage tough interactions, it not only reduces their stress but also creates a more supportive environment for patrons.

2. Peer Support Groups

Working in a library, especially with vulnerable populations, can take an emotional toll. Peer support groups give staff a space to connect, vent, and share strategies for managing the challenges of the job. These groups:

• Create a judgment-free zone to discuss workplace stress.
• Provide validation and encouragement from coworkers who understand the struggles firsthand.
• Help staff feel less isolated and more supported.

Sometimes, just knowing someone else has been through a similar experience can make all the difference.

3. Clear Policies for Safety and Inclusion

Safety and inclusion go hand in hand. Having clear, consistently enforced policies helps staff feel secure and ensures patrons know what to expect. Some important policies to consider include:

• A zero-tolerance policy for harassment or violence toward staff or other patrons.
• Conflict resolution protocols that staff can easily follow in challenging situations.
• Inclusivity guidelines to ensure all patrons feel welcome, regardless of their background or circumstances.

These policies create a foundation of trust and mutual respect in the library.

4. Design Spaces with Safety & Support in Mind

The physical layout of a library can have a big impact on how safe and welcoming it feels. Some ideas include:

• Quiet zones where patrons can decompress without distractions.
• Comfortable staff break areas for much-needed downtime during busy shifts.
• Universal accessibility to ensure everyone, including those with disabilities, can fully access the library’s resources.
• Private areas where sensitive conversations or referrals can take place.

Even small changes, like adding soothing colors or natural lighting, can make a space feel more inviting.

5. Foster a Culture of Care

Library support should start from the top down. When leadership prioritizes staff well-being, it trickles down to create a more caring environment for everyone. Some ways to foster this culture include:

• Acknowledging and celebrating staff achievements.
• Encouraging breaks and mental health days without guilt.
• Checking in with staff regularly to see how they’re doing and what support they need.
• Offering flexibility wherever possible to support work-life balance.

When staff feel cared for, they’re better able to extend that care to patrons.

6. Finding Partners to Help & Support

Libraries don’t have to go it alone. Partnering with local organizations can provide staff and patrons with additional resources and support. Examples include:

• Hosting workshops on mental health or conflict resolution for staff and patrons.
• Providing resource guides or referrals for unhoused individuals.
• Partnering with social workers or mental health professionals for on-site assistance.

These partnerships can strengthen the library’s ability to serve its community while reducing the burden on staff.

7. Prioritize Self-Care for Staff

In the midst of serving our communities, it’s easy for library staff to forget to care for themselves. Yet self-care is essential. It helps us recharge, manage stress, and avoid burnout, especially when navigating the unique challenges of library work. Recognizing this, I am creating a self-care course tailored specifically for library workers. This course will e offered to ALA members as a free resource and will offer practical tools and strategies to help library workers prioritize their well-being while continuing to make a meaningful impact in their communities. 

Here are some ways that Libraries can encourage and support self-care:

• Offer Dedicated Self-Care Training: Provide courses and workshops focused on stress management, mindfulness, and work-life balance. (I’m currently designing a self-care course tailored specifically for library workers to serve as a resource for their well-being!)
• Encourage Breaks: Ensure staff feel supported in taking their full breaks without guilt or pressure.
• Create a Culture of Self-Care: Model self-care at all levels of leadership, so staff know it’s a priority, not an afterthought.
• Provide Mental Health Resources: Share information about local counselors, helplines, or stress-relief programs.

When staff practice self-care, they’re better equipped to support patrons and foster a positive, compassionate library environment.

Navigating Through Complex Challenges

Working in a library means navigating complex challenges, but it also means having the opportunity to create meaningful change. By focusing on empathy, safety, and support, we can make libraries more compassionate spaces for everyone, both staff and patrons.

What are some ways your library has fostered safety and compassion? I’d love to hear your ideas and experiences if you'd like to share.

With care and compassion,

the Compassionate Librarian

Self-Care for Library Workers

 I'm designing a new course called Self-Care for Library Workers! It's going to be such a great resource for anyone that works in a library. I can't wait to share the course with you. If you have any ideas you want to share with me, please feel to post in the comments.

All the best,

the Compassionate Librarian

Self-Care Routines for Better Life Balance

Let's talk about how to incorporate self-care into your day. If you work in a library, you know that it can sometimes be stressful. Starting a self-care routine can create a sense of balance and help you transition smoothly between work and personal life. Your routine doesn't have to be elaborate, just a few mindful minutes can help to make a big difference. Remember, by carving out intentional time for self-care, you're supporting your own well-being.

Morning Routines

Starting your day with intention can help you feel grounded and prepared for whatever challenges lie ahead. Here are some simple routines to incorporate into your morning:

1. A Morning Mantra

   • Begin your day with a phrase that inspires calm and focus, such as:
     "I am prepared for this day. I will approach challenges with compassion and patience."
   • Repeat it to yourself while sipping your morning coffee or tea to center your thoughts.

2. Stretch or Move Your Body

   • Take five minutes to stretch or do light exercises to release tension and energize your body. Even a short walk outside can help clear your mind.

3. Set Your Intention

   • Before heading to work, think about one positive goal for the day. It could be as simple as helping one patron with a smile or taking a mindful moment during a busy shift.

4. Gratitude Practice

   • Reflect on one thing you’re grateful for before starting your day. Gratitude can shift your mindset and set a positive tone.

Afternoon or Evening Routines 

Ending your day with a few moments of self-care can help you leave work behind and transition into relaxation mode:

1. A Quick Reflection

   • Spend a couple of minutes reflecting on your day. Ask yourself:
     • What went well today?
     • What am I proud of?
     • What can I let go of?
   • This allows you to celebrate small wins and release stress.

2. Unplug and Reset

   • Avoid checking work emails or messages once your shift ends. Create a boundary between work and personal time to recharge fully.

3. Evening Routine of Gratitude

   • Write down one or two things you’re grateful for from your day, such as a kind word from a coworker or a successful program.

4. Relaxation Practice

   • Engage in an activity that helps you unwind: reading, meditating, journaling, or enjoying a warm cup of herbal tea.

Your Personal Self-Care Routine

Everyone’s needs are different, so these routines can be adapted to fit your lifestyle and preferences. The key is to create moments that allow you to connect with yourself and transition mindfully between work and personal life. These small acts of self-care are investments in your well-being, helping you stay balanced and resilient in the face of the unique challenges of library work.

Do you have any self-care routines you have incorporated in to your daily life? I’d love to hear about it in the comments!

With care,
The Compassionate Librarian

Celebrating the Heart of Library Work

I always say you never know what a day at the library will bring. Some days, it feels like we’re navigating a storm—rushing to put out fires, managing long lines at the desk, and juggling the many unexpected challenges that come our way. With all of that, there are many wonderful moments that remind us why we’re here, the moments that make all the hard work feel worthwhile.

I’ll never forget one particularly busy day. There were patrons lined up out the door. The phone wouldn’t stop ringing, the printer was broken, and a frustrated patron let me know in no uncertain terms just how upset they were about the situation. By the end of my shift, I felt drained and overwhelmed, questioning myself on why I do this work.

Just as I was wrapping up my day, something remarkable happened. A teen patron I had helped earlier that week returned to the library. She was clutching the book I had helped her pick out. When she saw me she had the biggest smile. She told me how much she loved the book and that it had inspired her to start writing a story of her own. That small interaction completely made my day!

Finding Joy in Small Moments

Helping people is really the heart of library work: the connections we make and the lives we touch. All in the middle of a chaotic day. This really breaks through the noise and reminds me why I do what I do.

I’ve also found immense joy in mentoring new librarians. Recently, I worked with a new staff member who was eager but nervous about their first few weeks on the job. I offered guidance on how to manage tough patron interactions, shared tips for staying organized, and how to navigate the reference desk, I also told them to contact me if they needed anything. Seeing their confidence grow over time was incredibly rewarding. It was a strong reminder of how our work goes beyond books and services.

Balancing the Highs and Lows

Library work can be challenging, but those moments of connection, inspiration, and growth are what keep us going. Whether it’s helping a patron find the information they need, inspiring someone to try something new, or finding resources for an unhoused patron, these small victories remind us of the profound impact libraries have on people’s lives.

A Celebration of Purpose

The heart of library work isn’t in the policies, the systems, or the endless tasks we manage. It’s in the stories—the ones we help others create and the ones we create for ourselves through the connections we make.

So, on those tough days, when it feels like everything is going wrong, I try to hold on to those moments of joy. They’re small, but they’re mighty, and they make all the difference.

What are the moments that remind you of why you love library work? I’d love to hear your stories.

With joy and gratitude,
The Compassionate Librarian